Tagged with perfectionism

Burned Hands & Letting Go

God’s been teaching me some hard lessons over the last year. Actually, He’s probably been trying to teach me for a lot longer than that—it’s that I’m just now starting to pay attention…just now starting to learn about letting go. I’ll admit, that sounds boring, doesn’t it? I almost yawned as I typed it. “Letting … Continue reading

Perfectionism: Good or Bad? (Part 2)

It took a while, but here’s the follow up to Perfectionism: Good or Bad? (Part 1). #6. You’re a people-pleaser. We find people not liking or approving of us borderline unbearable, so we have trouble setting appropriate boundaries. We end up saying yes to requests and accepting treatment that we secretly resent. We might make … Continue reading

Perfectionism: Good or Bad? (Part 1)

For most of us who have it, perfectionism is probably both a blessing and a curse. The obvious upside is that perfectionism is associated with exceptional performance and achievement. Perfectionists tend to be driven to do whatever it takes to meet the high standards they set. But there are drawbacks to perfectionism too. In a … Continue reading

Perfectionism Series: Failure Doesn’t Kill You

Failure-phobia is a common problem, even for people who aren’t perfectionists. Of course it’s completely normal and understandable that we would rather not fail. Failing stinks. Whether it’s not making the volleyball team in high school to getting fired from a job to getting rejection slips from one publisher after another, it leaves us feeling heartbroken, ashamed, and inadequate. But if … Continue reading

Perfectionism Series: Give Yourself Time

The thing about healing and recovering is that it’s usually slow progress, and it’s marked by setbacks and confusion and pain. A lot of pain. Spoiled by an instant-everything society, we want fast fixes. This is especially true for people like me who think that we should do everything perfectly–including healing–and that means healing almost instantaneously. “I should not still … Continue reading

The Perfectionism Series

I read a really good book on perfectionism awhile back called The Perfectionist Predicament: How to Stop Driving Yourself and Others Crazy (one of the books listed on my Recommended Readings page). I just happened to come across it in a used book store, but I knew it was meant for me! Do you struggle with … Continue reading

Actually, It Did Affect Me

I had dinner with a friend last night and we talked about my re-emerging eating disorder issues. I told her how frustrated I am that this has all been surfacing again now—when I am in the best place I’ve been in a long time. Happier. Safer. Healthier…and then bam! My eating disorder creeps back in … Continue reading