Mailman Moments

As some of you know, I now have a step-dog. He’s a 9-year-old Rottweiler who’s actually very sweet, but who guards the backyard as if its his sole purpose in life (maybe it is?). Since we have a short fence in the back that parallels a greenway, there is no shortage of things for him … Continue reading

It’s Not Just a Show

I hate the TV show Survivor. There, I said it. Whew, that felt good. Clearly, though, not everyone shares my opinion seeing as how it has scores of avid fans and has been on for years. Here’s what it is for me…I just can’t get into a show where the whole premise is rewarding whoever … Continue reading

It’s Time for a Time-Out

Sometimes you just need a break from a relationship. A breather…some space to re-evaluate what you’re getting out of it and whether it’s even worth it. I’ve decided I’m at that point. TV, Facebook, Pinterest—I’m looking at you. So I’m taking a step back from media. I’ve had the vague sense for a while now … Continue reading

The Extraordinary Ordinary

The sun is shining today and it’s almost warm enough for shorts and a t-shirt…almost. This makes me a happy girl. I struggle with depression, and there a plenty of bad days. I wish I could control when I get good days, but most of the time, I can’t. So I take the good days … Continue reading

A Not Very Valentine’s Day Post

I hadn’t really planned on posting anything today, but I randomly came across a song this morning that’s really digging in. A splinter in my heart, so to speak. Because this song is like an anthem for those of us who’ve had to walk away from someone we cared about because they’re so broken, a … Continue reading

“Shoulds” Should Take a Hike

I recently quit my corporate job and started consulting. And I got married. To someone with a crazy work schedule. And I moved into his bachelor pad house. And became a Rottweiler step-mom. All good things. And all hard at times. Especially for someone like me. I like clean and I like organized. Routine is … Continue reading

My Only New Year’s Resolution

Normally I don’t do New Year’s resolutions. It’s hard to take them seriously, because we all know they last somewhere between 24 hours and a couple of months. But I do want 2014 to be a year of intentional growth, and that starts with a vision of what I’m working towards and a commitment (okay, … Continue reading

Perfectionism: Good or Bad? (Part 2)

It took a while, but here’s the follow up to Perfectionism: Good or Bad? (Part 1). #6. You’re a people-pleaser. We find people not liking or approving of us borderline unbearable, so we have trouble setting appropriate boundaries. We end up saying yes to requests and accepting treatment that we secretly resent. We might make … Continue reading

Perfectionism: Good or Bad? (Part 1)

For most of us who have it, perfectionism is probably both a blessing and a curse. The obvious upside is that perfectionism is associated with exceptional performance and achievement. Perfectionists tend to be driven to do whatever it takes to meet the high standards they set. But there are drawbacks to perfectionism too. In a … Continue reading

Why Not Just Forget It?

Most of us deal with our past in two ways. Either we get stuck there and let the wounds from it fester and spread infection, or we try to forget our past and minimize its impact on our lives. Most of the time, when I think about my past marriage, it’s like thinking about a … Continue reading