Control Freak


While thinking about these lessons I’m learning about my immaturity and entitlement, I was reminded of a blog post on letting go that I wrote a while back. Reading over it, I realized God was actually starting to teach me some of these things back then… about 4 years ago! But apparently I’m a slow learner so here we are still 🙂 What can I say, I’m a recovering control freak.

To paraphrase something I wrote then:

So much of our unhappiness is because we confuse what we can and can’t control. We are desperate to control things and people that we can’t, and often don’t want to take control of what we should.

What can we control? Our attitude. It takes intention and it takes discipline. What we think about influences how we feel and what we believe.  But controlling our attitude is really hard to do! It’s much easier to focus on the negative and get swept up in the emotion. Seeing the good in people, in a situation and in the world requires forcing ourselves to look for and then stay focused on the positive. And that requires continually returning to the positive when our minds wander back to the negative, where it tends to be more comfortable—at least that’s true for me.

But “comfortable” is not necessarily a happy or peaceful place, and if I have to choose, I’d rather be happy and peaceful than comfortable. Paul tells us the secret is,

“Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things. Whatever you have learned or received or heard from me, or seen in me—put it into practice. And the God of peace will be with you.” {Philippians 4:8-9}

So maybe being a control freak isn’t such a bad thing. I just need to change what I’m trying to control!

With love,


2 thoughts on “Control Freak

  1. You are preaching to the choir my sweet friend! Such a talented writer with a heart of truth. xoxo

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