A Not Very Valentine’s Day Post

I hadn’t really planned on posting anything today, but I randomly came across a song this morning that’s really digging in. A splinter in my heart, so to speak. Because this song is like an anthem for those of us who’ve had to walk away from someone we cared about because they’re so broken, a relationship is impossible. For a long time we might have believed—or at least desperately hoped—that if we loved them enough, it would heal their brokenness.

But it can’t. Sometimes, as the song says, we just can’t “get to” the other person because they’re in a place that’s unreachable for us. A place only God can touch…if they’ll let Him. And they so often don’t.

Valentine’s Day is a wonderful day for a lot of people. And a horrible day for many others. When I found this song, I of course was reminded of my own past of leaving an ex with borderline personality disorder. But I also thought of my friend who’s in the middle of a divorce this Valentine’s. She had to walk away from her husband who’s a narcissist. I have another friend whose relationship with her dad is disappearing because she’s putting up boundaries to protect herself from his wounding behavior.

Here is the video (lyrics below). It’s beautiful in a sad, haunting way.

And lest I leave you feeling depressed, know that there is always light on the other side of the darkness. If you can endure what that person has put you through, you have more strength than you probably feel. You can walk away when it’s time…and night will slowly turn to a new day and you will blossom in the sunshine. You will smile a real smile again. Whether it’s with a new relationship, friends, or even just with God, you will experience love that is good and freeing and safe.

An ending, yes…but a new beginning too. While blank pages can be scary, we don’t have to write the whole story ourselves. He can do immeasurably more than we could ask or even imagine for our own lives (Ephesians 3:20). Oh, the frightening, marvelous possibilities!

Happy Valentine’s Day friends.

Say Something

Say something, I’m giving up on you
I’ll be the one, if you want me to
Anywhere I would’ve followed you
Say something, I’m giving up on you

And I am feeling so small
It was over my head
I know nothing at all

And I will stumble and fall
I’m still learning to love
Just starting to crawl

Say something, I’m giving up on you
I’m sorry that I couldn’t get to you
Anywhere I would’ve followed you
Say something, I’m giving up on you

And I will swallow my pride
You’re the one that I love
And I’m saying goodbye

Say something, I’m giving up on you
And I’m sorry that I couldn’t get to you
And anywhere I would’ve followed you (Oh-oh-oh-oh)
Say something, I’m giving up on you

Say something, I’m giving up on you
Say something.

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