Lies are at the center of eating disorders, addictions, self-esteem problems, depression, anxiety, and a host of other issues that we all struggle with. This makes sense considering the first sin ever committed was based on a lie. Satan told Eve that if she ate the forbidden fruit that she would be like God.
Now, what made this particularly effective is that it was kind of a half-truth. She would be more like God in that she would know about good and evil. The whole truth, though, is that her sin would actually make her less like God. Sin always separates us from our Father. Even today, Satan tends to slip us—or we slip ourselves—half-truths that seem just true enough that we accept them. Authors John and Stasi Eldridge call these agreements, and I like that because it implies the active role we play in buying into the lies.
THIS IS KEY.
It’s always difficult to admit our sin and the part we play in our own dysfunctions. It may seem easier to blame other people or circumstances and keep pretending that we are victims, and maybe it is easier. But there is a high price to pay. That mentality leaves us stuck—totally helpless and hopeless that things will change. Owning that you have a choice in the matter does not mean that you are a bad person, a failure, a loser, etc. for the poor choices you’ve made. It means you can make different, better choices and become the person you want to be, achieve the life you want to have. Taking responsibility is empowering. Yes, it’s scary and uncomfortable, but you can do it. I promise you, it is worth it.
That’s why I’m starting this “Monday Morning Truth” series. Every Monday, I will write about a prevalent lie that you and I might accept and challenge it with real Truth. Because I can’t say it enough: If we want healing and wholeness, we need to develop a better ability to discern Truth. That is step 1. Step 2 is believing the Truth. So I’ll also try to provide some practical questions or exercises to help us connect newly-discovered Truth to our minds and hearts, so that it can actually make a difference in our lives.
It’s not enough to hear the Truth, we have to let it change us from the inside out.
“Don’t fool yourself into thinking that you are a listener when you are actually letting the Word go in one ear and out the other. Act on what you hear! Those who hear and don’t act are like those who glance in the mirror, walk away, and two minutes later have no idea who they are or what they look like. But whoever catches a glimpse of the revealed counsel of God—the free life!—and sticks with it, they are no distracted scatterbrain, but a man or woman of action. That person will find delight and affirmation in the action.” ~ James 1:22-25 MSG (revised)